“I’m making my famous chicken biryani this Saturday and you MUST come!” chirped Aunty Priya on the phone. “Bring that manifesting book of yours — my niece is having so much trouble with her boss. I know you can help her manifest a great new job…”

You know those people in your life who are absolutely wonderful, but whose invitations always seem to come with a side of… complexity? That’s Aunty Priya for me 😅

I could feel it happening — that familiar tug-of-war in my chest. Part of me genuinely wanted to see her (her chicken biryani really is incredible!), but another part of me felt my energy immediately contract.

Saturday is my sacred R & R day. It’s my reading-in-my-pajamas, having-a-leisurely-brunch or watching-a-movie-with-Julian day, so I can let my system completely decompress after a busy week.

In the past, I would have said yes to Aunty Priya even before she could get the invitation out and then spent the entire week feeling resentful and scattered.

But this time, I took a deep breath and said, “Thank you Aunty Priya! Your chicken biriyani is fabulous but unfortunately, I can’t make it this Saturday.“

There was a heavy pause. Then she said, “It’s just that I already told my niece you’d be coming. She’s been looking forward to it all week. But I guess you’re very busy these days…” her voice trailed off.

I felt a twinge of guilt. I felt myself genuinely wondering if I should backtrack.

But then I paused, took a 1 Healing Breath of Calm and I knew I wasn’t going to change my mind.

And it’s because I can stay present with uncomfortable emotions without immediately trying to fix or escape them with a wildly reckless yes! 

That’s The Abundant No in action ✨

Most of us think “no” is about scarcity — not having enough time, energy, or love to go around. But the Abundant No is the opposite.

It’s saying YES to yourself. It’s telling the Universe you’re ready to receive what you really want.

The Abundant No recognizes that our energy is precious and that’s not because we’re limited but because we’re so powerful when we get to direct it consciously.

Every time you say The Abundant No, you’re telling the Universe: “I trust that there’s enough love, enough opportunities, enough good things to go around. I don’t need to say yes out of fear.”

I’ve found that the more I practice The Abundant No, the more my yes-es come from joy instead of obligation.

When I do spend time with Aunty Priya, I’ll be fully there and not thinking about what I’d rather be doing or feeling resentful about sacrificed plans.

Has there been a situation recently where you said yes when your whole being wanted to say no? What would it feel like to practice the Abundant No this week?

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