Have you ever noticed how often the thing you want shows up right after you stop watching for it? 

You go on a lovely first date and spend the next few days checking your phone for their text, your thumb hovering over the screen every time it buzzes (sound familiar? 😅).

Then on Saturday you leave your phone in your bag all afternoon at a friend’s barbecue. 

When you pull it out on the way home, there it is: “I had the best time. Can I see you again this week?”

Most of us have our own version of this story. 

We usually laugh it off as the watched pot that never boils, and I see it as one of the clearest lessons the Universe offers us about ease.

Here’s what’s going on underneath…

When you clutch at a desire tightly, the Universe picks it up far more clearly than the desire itself.

Every anxious glance at your phone sends a little message along… “Is it here yet? What if it doesn’t come?” 😬

The Universe lovingly responds with more of what matches that energy, which usually means more time spent waiting by the phone.

In quantum physics, the Copenhagen Interpretation tells us that what we observe is what collapses into our reality. 

When you keep checking for a text that isn’t there, you’re observing the absence of that text… and absence is what keeps showing up.

But when you let go and enjoy yourself at the barbecue with your phone tucked away, for a few hours your energy becomes relaxed and at ease without you even trying.

Ease is the energy the Universe recognizes as, “Yes, I’m ready to receive now!”

We can’t plan a fun barbeque every time we want something to show up, of course, so I like to create that easy, unhooked feeling on purpose.

Here’s a little pre-check ritual that takes about 10 seconds.

Before you check your phone (or whatever you’ve been refreshing), place your hands over your heart and take 1 Healing Breath of Ease (see below on how to do this).

Then ask gently: “Can I let the Universe take care of this one?” 🌈

Stay with the question until you feel that sense of relaxation in your physical body, even a little. Then… check (or don’t, either is perfectly fine!).

What’s changed is the energy you bring to the waiting 💫

So here’s my invitation for the week ahead… Pick one desire you’ve been watching closely (on your phone or in your head!) and give it the pre-check ritual every time you feel the urge to check on it.

Then go enjoy your day. The Universe has a delightful habit of giving you exactly what you want while you’re busy doing something you love 💖

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